A divorce can be handled one of two ways. Either you go at each other hammer and tongs, in an attempt to extract the last drop of blood, leaving scorched earth behind. Or you and your attorney can treat the other spouse/attorney with respect, decline to fan the flames, and focus on the issues which need to be resolved: openly disclosing finances, submitting reasonable positions, and considering necessary changes if supported by a rational basis. Then if one side persists in unreasonable demands, your attorney can show the court why only your proposal is reasonable.
Though playing hard ball may seem to garner a few dollars more in the short term, in the long run the second approach is almost always better. How you deal with each other during the divorce will affect how you interact afterwards. When you have children, you have to deal with each other while they grow up. You won’t always agree, so pick your battles. Conflict between households hurts your children. Having a working, civil relationship with the other parent helps the children, so long as health and safety are protected.
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